Evaluating HAP Step 1

This form will take about 15-20 minutes to complete, but when finished it will give a clear indication of whether the person is suffering from Hostile Aggressive Parenting.

The subject parent has denigrated another other parent in front of any child.
The subject parent has failed to promote a normal and healthy telephone communication between the child and another parent and has taken measures which hinder a child’s communication with another parent.
The subject parent has hung up the phone on a child or forced the child to hang up the phone when the child was in the middle of a telephone conversation with the other parent.
The subject parent has undermined the reasonable parenting authority of the other parent by encouraging the child to defy the other parent’s authority and even encourage the child to do things which the other parent has reasonably deemed to be inappropriate for the child considering the child’s age and maturity. (Sometimes referred to as permissive parenting)
The subject parent has been uncooperative, created unnecessary difficulties or delays, or has obstructed the child from seeing the other parent on special family occasions such as birthdays, family weddings, funerals, Mother’s day, Father’s day or other similar gatherings, etc.
The subject parent has been uncooperative or unresponsive when it comes to working out summer and holiday schedules for children in a reasonable and timely fashion.
The subject parent has taken the child to counsellors, doctors or other health care professionals on an ongoing basis regarding the child’s behavioural or emotional problems without the prior knowledge, consent or participation of the other parent.
The subject parent has been unwilling to involve a third party to act as a mediator, coordinator, or to have any other professionals involved in helping the parents to communicate and to co-parent the children effectively.
The subject parent has been unwilling to participate in a family group conference or community justice process when he/she has been invited to do so by members of either of the child’s extended family units.
The subject parent has declined to participate in any kind of fair and equal parenting arrangement for the child or to even give such a plan a try on an interim basis, when such an arrangement is desired by the other parent and/or the child and when this has been proposed by the other parent.
The subject parent has unilaterally arranged activities or planned events for the child for times when the child is supposed to be on the other parent’s access time.
The subject parent has attempted to entice or bribe the child to not want to go with the other parent during the other parent’s scheduled parenting time with the child.
The subject parent has not allowed or discouraged the child from having any pictures or memorabilia involving the other parent in the home or the child feels intimidated to have pictures kept in the subject parent’s home, including the child’s own room.
The subject parent has refused to disclose important and relevant contact information to the other parent such as home address, phone numbers or place of employment, making it difficult for others, including the other parent to communicate with the subject parent.
The subject parent has named the child at birth with the parent’s surname contrary to the general prevailing customs of the country or contrary to the wishes of the other biological parent. (Generally applicable to married mothers in North America)
The subject parent has threatened or intimidated the other parent by telling the other parent that they are going to unilaterally change the last name of the child in order to control, punish or denigrate the other parent.
The subject parent has told the child that his/her last name will be changed to another last name from what the child has been using in what could be interpreted as an attempt to intimidate, humiliate, denigrate or to demonstrate control over the other parent and the child.
The subject parent has unilaterally appointed an agency or person to provide significant and ongoing day care for the child without providing the other parent the opportunity to participate in the selection process for the day care provider.
The subject parent has used third parties in preference to the other parent to care for the child when the child has been ill or not in school, regardless of the child’s wishes or other parent’s availability and willingness to care for the child at the time.
The subject parent has imposed themselves upon the other parent or family at family functions when they were not invited or welcomed
The subject parent has imposed themselves upon the other parent and the child during the other parent’s personal access time with the child.
The subject parent has insisted that the other parent return the child precisely on time while not respecting these same rules themselves or has blown out of proportion the times when the other parent has been late for an exchange.
The subject parent has not informed the other parent of important upcoming school activities, events, or holidays when the child’s regular schedule at school may be changed.
The subject parent has refused permission or has attempted to obstruct the other parent or other family members from attending special events at the school involving the child such as awards or special presentations where the child is participating.
The subject parent has not informed the other parent in a timely fashion when the child has suffered injury which requires medical attention or has refused to permit the release of medical information to the other parent about the child.
The subject parent has thrown out or destroyed pictures of the other parent and removed pictures of the other parent from photo albums. This often will include pictures that the child may have in his/her possession.
The subject parent has not properly informed or has supplied the school with false or misleading contact information about the other parent and family which would make it more difficult or inconvenient for the school to contact the other parent in the event of an emergency at school.
The subject parent has acted in an unfriendly or rude manner with the new partner of the other parent without just cause or has rejected friendly efforts by the new partner to try to work cooperatively for the benefit of the children.
The subject parent has told the child that they cannot accommodate the child’s request to make minor or temporary changes to the parenting arrangements and that only the court can change the parenting schedule.
The subject parent has attempted to unreasonably interfere or to restrict a child’s parenting time to another parent by claiming that the child is at risk with the other parent because of a fear of SARS, West Nile Virus or some other communicable disease.
The subject parent has taken away or has prevented the child from carrying a cell phone which the other parent has obtained for the child and there would appear to be no reasonable reason to deny the child use of the cell phone.
The subject parent has kept the child out from regular school activities as part of what would appear to be a strategy to keep the other parent from seeing or having contact with the child while the child is at school.
The subject parent has removed pages from or stolen the parent’s communication journal in what would appear to be an effort to remove undesirable evidence relating to certain pieces of communication between parents.
The subject parent has hung up the phone on the other parent before ending the conversation out of what would appear to be anger or frustration.
The subject parent has not picked up the phone or returned messages from his/her own child when the child has attempted to call from the other parent’s home.
The subject parent has refused to pay for their fair share of extra expenses relating to child without just and reasonable cause.
The subject parent has exposed the child to smoking in the home which the child has indicated is causing discomfort to him/her and where the child does not suffer from any known medical condition which is aggravated by smoking.
The subject parent has insisted that they should have the right to impose daily telephone contact with the child when the child is at the other parent’s home.
The subject parent has blocked or refused to respond to attempts by another parent to communicate via e mail regarding issues affecting the children or the family.
The subject parent has refused the child’s request to spend some additional time at the home of another parent’s home who at the time of the child’s request is parenting the child for less than 50% of the time.
The subject parent has purposely disconnected the telephone service to their home without reasonable notice to the other parent and without providing the other parent will an alternative means of communicating with the child, thus interfering with the child’s telephone access with the other parent.
The subject parent has refused to give their permission to allow the other parent to take the child out for lunch at school/daycare or has told the child that they are not allowed to be taken out by the other parent during their school/daycare lunch break.
The subject parent has transferred money from a child’s bank account into another bank account for the child without prior consultation and agreement with the other parent when both parents previously had joint signing authority of the child’s account.
The subject parent has withdrawn money from a child’s bank account and spent the money on their own personal uses rather than to ensure that the money is kept in trust for the child.
The subject parent has interfered with their child’s relationship with another child and it would appear that the reason may be because the other child’s parents have a friendly relationship with the other parent.
The subject parent has told their child in a denigrating or humiliating way that the child’s behaviour reminds them of the other parent.
The subject parent has refused or failed to obtain appropriate mental health services for any child when evidence would reasonably suggest that the child is in need of mental health services and that action should take action.
The subject parent has refused or failed to take appropriate steps to deal with a child’s chronic minor illness which a parent would be expected to deal with and where this problem has been brought to the attention of the parent by others.
The subject parent has refused or failed to take appropriate steps to deal with a child’s learning difficulty at school which a parent would be expected to deal with and where this problem has been brought to the attention of the parent by others.
The subject parent has refused to allow their child to go to the home of the other parent to babysit other younger siblings when the child is old enough to babysit, wishes to go and when this could be reasonably accommodated except for the fact that it is not the child’s scheduled time to be with the other parent.
The subject parent has refused to allow their child to take their pet to the other parent’s home when the child wishes to do this and there would appear to be no reasonable reason for refusal of the child’s request.
The subject parent has refused to allow their child to participate in personal development lessons or attend a sports activity and it would appear that this decision is being made because the child will be with the other parent during some of the times that the child will have to attend the activity.
The subject parent has told their child that the child cannot participate in personal development lessons or attend a sports activity because the child would be normally at the other parent’s home.
The subject parent has told the child that the child looks like them and not like the other parent to make the child feel more connected to the HAP parent.
The subject parent has allowed a girlfriend or boyfriend of a minor child in the household to come and live in the parent’s home contrary to the wishes and advice of the other parent.
The subject parent has refused to allow the other parent to have their name put on the child’s passport without reasonable reasons for refusing so.
The subject parent has failed to pass on telephone messages to the child from the other parent in a reasonable and timely manner.
The subject parent has changed the child’s family doctor, dentist or other medical professional who has been providing care for the child in the past, without justifiable reason.